Someone else’s greater capability does not invalidate your own. Just because someone else is better at a thing, or knows more about a thing, or has an advanced degree in a thing, doesn’t mean you suck at that thing. Yet Read more…
Personal resilience is, I believe, one of the three top skills every person will need over the next decade. (My other top two are adaptability and the ability to discern truth.) Personal resilience, generally speaking, is the ability to persevere Read more…
I’m writing for social impact professionals today, but this is relevant for everyone who cares about something, or who wants to improve the world even just a little bit. I spent 20 years as a social impact program manager and Read more…
Nearly every high achiever thinks they’re not getting enough done. That’s because every time they accomplish something worthwhile, that success comes at the expense of some other worthwhile thing. When you have 15 important things to do and enough time Read more…
On Saturday, I accompanied my parents as they planted fresh geraniums at the graves of relatives. As I walked among the headstones, some of which were over 200 years old, I contemplated Americans’ complicated relationship with death. Living people spend Read more…
Being a caregiver is a high-stakes job. If you don’t give it everything you’ve got, you might lose the one you’re caring for. If you do give it everything you’ve got, you might lose yourself. The statistics prove that. Allison Read more…
Most executives would say that if you want to achieve results, you have to have a relentless, unyielding commitment to the outcome you want. Seems reasonable, right? Focus on your goal if you want to achieve your goal. But actually, Read more…
People think of catastrophizing and magical thinking as letting your imagination take control of your decision-making, either out of fear (catastrophizing) or toxic positivity (magical thinking). Often, however, catastrophizing and magical thinking stem from a failure of imagination. What gets Read more…
Being a caring person can have its downsides. One cost of caring is compassion fatigue, and it can hit anyone—even those trained to avoid it. I and two of my co-authors of RELIT: How to Rekindle Yourself in the Darkness Read more…
Extreme balance is how one of my hyper-achiever clients went from over-scheduled to a healthy, injury-free routine.