Caregiver Support
Stop seeing opponents where you have allies
We’re very good at finding someone to blame, even if it’s no one’s fault. That leads to more harm and conflict. Here’s why, and what to do instead.
Caregiver Support
My approach to caregiver coaching in 30 minutes
In my interview with High Velocity Radio, we laid out the mindset and skills needed to succeed when caring for a family member. Worth 30 minutes of your day.
Burnout and Compassion Fatigue
Multitasking or thrashing? 5 things to help you focus.
Feeling overwhelmed? Multitasking will make it worse because doing many things at once leads to thrashing. Do these five things instead.
Caregiver Support
Certainty is a red herring
Demanding certainty leads to fear and anxiety. Certainty is a red herring. Embrace uncertainty, however, and you’ll find you fear the future less, not more.
Caregiver Support
Three exercises for personal resilience
Personal resilience is, I believe, one of the three top skills every person will need over the next decade. (My other top two are adaptability and the ability to discern truth.) Personal resilience, generally speaking, is the ability to persevere through adversity or to bounce back after a setback. Last Read more
Caregiver Support
How to quiet your high achiever guilt
Nearly every high achiever thinks they’re not getting enough done. That’s because every time they accomplish something worthwhile, that success comes at the expense of some other worthwhile thing. When you have 15 important things to do and enough time to do just 13 of them, the two that get Read more
Burnout and Compassion Fatigue
Join me at the Caregiver Café
Being a caregiver is a high-stakes job. If you don’t give it everything you’ve got, you might lose the one you’re caring for. If you do give it everything you’ve got, you might lose yourself. The statistics prove that. Allison Wyman and I talked about the solutions to that recently Read more
Caregiver Support
To achieve results, let go of the outcome
Most executives would say that if you want to achieve results, you have to have a relentless, unyielding commitment to the outcome you want. Seems reasonable, right? Focus on your goal if you want to achieve your goal. But actually, the opposite is true. Focusing too much on the outcome Read more
Burnout and Compassion Fatigue
The cost of caring
Being a caring person can have its downsides. One cost of caring is compassion fatigue, and it can hit anyone—even those trained to avoid it. I and two of my co-authors of RELIT: How to Rekindle Yourself in the Darkness of Compassion Fatigue appeared on the In Sickness podcast recently. Read more
Burnout and Compassion Fatigue
Keep your hands on your self-care steering wheel
Do you keep your hands on your self-care steering wheel? Or do you grab the wheel only when things get overwhelming? Imagine you’re on a long road. When the road is curvy, you need to steer through the curves. When the road is straight, there’s a lot less steering to Read more