Caregiver Support
Stop seeing opponents where you have allies
We’re very good at finding someone to blame, even if it’s no one’s fault. That leads to more harm and conflict. Here’s why, and what to do instead.
Decisions
Extending the 10/10/10 decision framework
The 10/10/10 decision framework is a solid decision-making tool, but I found a new useful extension that can make all the difference sometimes.
Decisions
Your data set is incomplete
You can’t possibly have a complete data set, so make decisions using the data you have while being open to new information along the way.
Decisions
Exiting the Decision Circle
Three tips for breaking out of a decision circle. A decision circle happens when you cannot choose between a multitude of good options.
Decisions
Procrastination is just borrowed time
Procrastination isn’t about putting tasks off until it’s almost too late. Procrastination is about borrowing time your future self will have to pay back.
Decisions
Knowing when it’s time to stop
Knowing when it’s time to stop can be hard. When are you throwing good effort into something that should have ended already? Examples: I’ve written before about action planning and quit criteria, but today I’m thinking about the feeling of being done. Not about achieving goals or meeting deliverables. Not Read more
Caregiver Support
To achieve results, let go of the outcome
Most executives would say that if you want to achieve results, you have to have a relentless, unyielding commitment to the outcome you want. Seems reasonable, right? Focus on your goal if you want to achieve your goal. But actually, the opposite is true. Focusing too much on the outcome Read more
Decisions
Avoid catastrophizing and magical thinking with these two questions
People think of catastrophizing and magical thinking as letting your imagination take control of your decision-making, either out of fear (catastrophizing) or toxic positivity (magical thinking). Often, however, catastrophizing and magical thinking stem from a failure of imagination. What gets people spiraling into irrational decision-making is an inability to think Read more
Decisions
Create an action plan because intention has a half-life
You always need an action plan because intention and inspiration have a half-life. An intention means nothing if you don’t follow through on it. An action plan is how you follow through. On Sunday, I helped the attendees at the San Francisco Writers Conference create their action plan after four Read more
Courage
New mistakes are the key to lifelong learning
Learning from your mistakes isn’t so you stop messing up. It’s so you can go out and have fun making new mistakes.